Self control is the ability to control one's emotions, behaviour and desires in order to efficiently manage one's future. In psychology it is sometimes called self-regulation. Exerting self-control through the executive functions in decision making is thought to deplete a resource in the ego.
- Good Pressure: When you are in a competitive yet non-judgemental and non-prejudicial environment, you want to be like those around you. You become motivated and inspired and gain self-control.
- Bad Pressure: When you are in a judgemental and prejudicial environment and there is no competition you become depressed and unmotivated. You lose self-control.
- No Pressure: When you are free and there is no competition, you do what you feel. Your self-control is based on how you feel and since there is no one to compare yourself to, you may be less motivated or more motivated depending on the urgency of whatever you are doing.
I used to lose myself very easily, things that i speak or do, nothing goes to my mind first. I act it first before i can think about it, which is really bad.
Can you imagine, you had hurt someone badly, and you lose the ability to think about it before hurting him/her? I never want to be like that. Even though i may be unhappy or angry with the person, i will never want to give in to my feelings/ emotions.
Many times, if you loses self control, you will gain a bad friend - guilt.
If you are reading this post, i urge you to think twice before acting on something. Have self control and think of what will happen next, who will suffer/ get hurt, does it benefit you... Don't let guilt be in the way of your life.
XOXO,
Fel
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